When Misty told me about her husband calling her after seeing the cappuccino photo post on social media, anxiously asking if that she was okay travelling on her own, I know that she came to The Calm & The Chaos workshop not only for herself, but also as get away for a break. I can sense her enjoyment, care less of what’s going on at home, and completely relax.
She needed this trip for herself.
Throughout the 3 days hanging out with Misty, we chatted quite a bit. Although I am not in her position, but I feel her loads on the shoulder, and a sense of tiredness and …… SADÂ Â (I’ve apologized upfront to Misty before bluntly using this description).
Few weeks later, Misty wrote me a letter:
“Boon, after our session, these are the words that I have written down
 - Sadness. Regret. Remorse. Responsibility. Strength. Silence. Doubt
I am nothing special, I am like 1000’s of others. Maybe that is why this is important.
I am a stay at home mom and a housewife and have given my family the last 20 years of my life. I have worked hard at making their lives better. It isn’t glamourous, it is actually pretty boring. A typical day for me goes like this: make breakfast, pack lunches, get the kids to school, come home, do whatever needs to be done (i.e. laundry, bathrooms, yard work, shopping, pay bills), pick up the kids, take them to music lessons or sports practice, come home, help with homework, make dinner, clean up dishes, visit or play games with the kids, have a glass of wine or a bottle depending on the day and go to bed.
Taking care of a family is hard.
Somewhere, I lost myself. Everyone else’s needs always came first. I am not angry or frustrated by it.
It just happened.
I’m sad that it happened so slowly that I didn’t even notice. I regret I didn’t make myself a priority to myself for all those years. I have been so focused on making everyone around me happy that I have forgotten what makes me happy.
That is terrifying because I don’t know what this is all leading to.”
– Misty
Being around the same age as Misty, my life for the past 20 years is a complete contrary to Misty. I don’t think I am entitled to say I understand Misty, but I do, I feel and I care. Inspiring from Misty’s story, I know I do not want to have a large collection, perhaps just enough to tell her story. Before we jump into the collection, I do want to thank Misty for entrusting me and giving me the utmost creative freedom to tell a very personal story of hers. Thank you Misty.
(Music credit: Heal – Tom Odell)
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